How Neuro-Linguistic Programming helps in changing your memories?
Jeremy Irons said:
Neuro-Linguistic Programming is an approach to communication, personal development, psychotherapy, and changing memories by Richard Bandler & John Grinder. We all have our time machines. Some take us back; they are called Memories. Some take us forward. They are called dreams
We have a billion-dollar photography industry that works on one need only- to preserve memories. No doubt these are resourceful memories, those that make you happy, excited, joyous, and hopeful when you visit them. In fact most of our Social Media industry banks on our dependence on our visual apparatus to recreate the moments of resourcefulness for ourselves as soon as we see these visual anchors that are pictures and movies.
Instagram, Google Photos, Facebook, Flickr, Imgur, all these are making Millions of dollars just because we want to relive our memories. And in some way, we are thankful to them for doing this. Aren’t our favorite chat apps full of throwbacks like “Only 90s kids will understand” and “ remember this, it looks like this now, feel old yet?” or just comparative pictures of your childhood street with what has happened to it now, shadowed by flyovers and electric poles.
The Chuck Palaniuk Way (Neuro-Linguistic Programming)
It is wonderful to visit memories. It gives us a sense of identity, in some way. However, as a celebrated author, Chuck Palahniuk said in his book, Invisible Monsters:
“When you understand that what you’re telling is just a story. It isn’t happening anymore. When you realize the story you’re telling is just words, when you can just crumble up and throw your past in the trash can, then we’ll figure out who you’re going to be.”
This is what being stuck in memories can do to people-it stops them from moving forward, prevents them from being who they can really be. We fail to realize what Stephen King said in his book, Joyland
“When it comes to the past, everyone writes fiction.”
This is what Neuro-Linguistic Programming also tells us time and again- our perception of reality is not the reality. As we perceive our environment outside and inside, we only take a little bit in. As long as it makes sense or only so much that our senses are not overwhelmed.
Metal Model (Recovering the Missing information) in NLP
In their codification of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, John Grinder and Richard Bandler gave us the standardized and exhaustively tested Meta Model. The objective of the Meta Model is to recover this missing information for us.
For it is quite possible that what really happened was nothing like how we remember it. It had more elements, and our perception was a teeny-tiny bit of what really happened.
One of my favorite books, I am Number Four by Pittacus Lore says:
“We don’t have to be defined by the things we did or didn’t do in our past. Some people allow themselves to be controlled by regret. Maybe it’s a regret, maybe it’s not. It’s merely something that happened. Get over it.”
We have many other techniques in NLP, like Timelines Therapy, Perceptual Positions, and Personal Reel Editing as well, which help us understand our memories and interpret them in a completely new, and often, resourceful light.
One of the fortunate things that have happened to me is that I have had Ridhima handhold me while I was learning these techniques. In Neuro-Linguistic Programming, practice is everything. And having a Top Neuro-Linguistic Programming Coach in India to help you troubleshoot the practice, can make you the best NLP Coach yourself.
“The present changes the past. Looking back you do not find what you left behind.”
― Kiran Desai, The Inheritance of Loss